I often get asked, “How did you survive your divorce? You seem to really be happy now.”
One friend even confided in me years after my divorce, “I like you a lot more now.”
The answer is pretty simple:
I finally started relying on Christ more than I relied on myself – at least most days.
It didn’t happen overnight, however there’s something powerful about hitting your knees and really asking for Him to lead you. He will do it. It’s crazy.
We can argue about what it means to “survive” or what it means to be “happy”. All I can tell you is that when I began to listen, He began to provide – a whole new career, true healing, time, renewed passion for life, a perfect woman. Sounds good right?! Trust me I couldn’t have planned this.
To be sure, there are still times when the scars resurface. Most of the time it’s when I begin to add too much of me and not enough of God in my life; when I read the Word less; when I am off on my own thing. That’s when it’s the most difficult.
Come to think of it, this is true no matter if you are divorced or not. It just happens to be my story.